Shyness is a term used to describe the feeling of apprehension, lack of confidence, or awkwardness experienced when a person is or near to being in contact with others. It is a malady that affects many people from all walks of life.
Studies have shown that a persons shyness is often brought about by by traumatic experiences, family background, culture, even genetics. Other factors that have also been shown to contribute to the development of this social problem are isolation as a child, poor parenting skills and over-involvement with inanimate objects such as television and computers and video games.
There is really no problem with being shy; except when you are not able to control your shyness that it keeps you from doing the normal activities that you should be doing regularly. A shy person’s symptoms may range from being unable to speak to an attractive member of the opposite gender to a full-blown phobia that completely isolates the sufferer psychologically or even physically. Some of the most common signs and symptoms of shyness are blushing, inappropriate self-consciousness, being socially withdrawn and stuttering.
Whether you recognize one or two of these feelings, several of them, or have other feelings that you see as shyness, you can benefit greatly from this article. But before I share with you some tips on how to overcome shyness, I would like to make sure that you understand that shyness is just an emotion and can be overcome. However, the road to becoming more confident is not a paved and short one; nonetheless, it will lead you to a happier and fulfilled life.
Tips On How To Overcome Shyness
Below are several tried and tested tips and exercises which can help you overcome shyness:
1. Know why you want to overcome shyness.
Before you start to do the exercises or implement the tips, grab a pen and write a list of the reasons you want to overcome your shyness. It can be anything from wanting to start a new relationship, having a more enjoyable social life or getting a better job. This list will be your source of motivation whenever you feel off-track as well as your source of accomplishment.
2. Learn to like yourself.
Shyness often stems from feelings of inferiority. Working on liking and accepting yourself exactly as you are is crucial to overcoming this social problem. What you can do is write a list of all the qualities you like about yourself; you can even ask a close friend or family member about the qualities they admire in you if you want. Reread add to the list as often as possible to reinforce the positive new beliefs and internalise them.
As they say, practice makes perfect so take all the opportunities where you can socialize with others. Stop avoiding social situations and put yourself out there as much as you can. The more you expose yourself to certain things the more accustomed you will be with them. This means that the more you interact with others, the more comfortable you will be doing it.
4. Be around the right people.
Who you are with has a direct effect on how you feel about yourself. So as you strive to improve your confidence and overcome shyness, make sure that you find company in people who encourage and support you. Avoid people who make you feel bad about yourself or don’t value and respect you.
As you put these tips to use, keep in mind that you are going through a process- a potentially long and challenging process. Just take small steps everyday and in a short while you will see and feel changes within you and around you but remain positive as there might be pitfalls but with persistence you can succeed. Shyness is really a real problem; but the good news is that any person who conditions his mind and who is determined to beat shyness can rise above the condition. It may be difficult at first. But do not give in and you will soon see the new and more confident you.
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