Some people socialize and jump into a conversation easily. These people find human interaction as fun and energizing. However, some people have difficulty warming up to others–they find almost every form of social interaction somehow unnerving and awkward.
The people described in the latter are what we often call, “shy people” or “introverts.” Although shyness may seem to cause no serious harm on the surface, recent studies have shown that extreme introversion can lead to serious mental problems like depression and schizophrenia. Hence, finding a treatment for shyness should be taken seriously.
Shyness can be defined as a feeling of discomfort in social situations. Feelings of shyness may vary from mild social awkwardness, social anxiety, to totally inhibiting social phobia and panic disorder. Although generally an emotion, shyness can affect any or all of the following aspects: cognitive, affective, physiological and behavioral.
A lot of psychologists describe this social dilemma as a form of excessive self-focus and preoccupation with one’s thoughts, feelings and physical reactions that interferes with a persons ability to enjoy himself and perform at the level he is capable of. In other words, shyness is a powerful force that can keep you from getting the best out of life.
So the question now is, how can one get rid of shyness? And is there some sort of treatment for it?
What Would It Take To Treat Shyness?
• Treatment for shyness is mainly psychological.
Although some medical professionals feel the need to medicate some individuals who are having extreme forms of social phobia or panic anxiety, mild or moderate shyness can be treated solely through therapy.
These sessions can be very beneficial as they are aimed towards correcting the root of the shyness and as well as help create a new set of beliefs and practices. But in addition to the help that you can get from consulting with a professional, let me share with you some points that I have personally found helpful in my journey towards being less shy and more confident:
• Be self aware instead of being self conscious.
Your feelings of awkwardness are likely brought about by the notion that the people around you are looking at you. I don’t know if this will come as a good or a bad news to you, but the world is not looking at you, people are too busy looking at themselves that they barely have time to recognize and give attention to the people around them.
Instead of being concerned about being watched by others, bring your awareness inwards and try to discover what exactly is making you shy. Be aware of your thoughts every time you feel shy and find ways to overcome these self-limiting notions.
• Surround yourself with positive and supportive people.
The people that we surround ourselves with have a great impact on how we feel about ourselves and as well as the things that we accomplish. So if you want to be successful in your aims to overcome your shyness, make sure that you keep yourself in the company of your best of friends or your supportive family.
Be with people who will constantly encourage and challenge you to become better to take actions towards overcoming your shyness. Avoid being with people who criticize you harshly or people who do not give you an opportunity to become a better person. Find the right support group and you will have a greater chance at achieving your goals.
• Remember that practice makes perfect.
I would say that this is the most important thing you should remember in overcoming shyness. You must constantly practice to be more sociable and more interactive. Talk to people whenever you get the chance to like at the grocery store, on the bus, at the bakery or anywhere there is an opportunity.
Try to talk more than you are used to and try to go out more than you used to. You’re never going to get anywhere without trying new things. The more you do certain things, the easier they get.
Shyness can be a serious problem. It can reduce the quality of your life and deprive you of the happiness that you truly deserve. But the good news is, you have the choice to overcome sadness, be more confident and live a more fulfilled life.